i was in a deposition today and one of the parties told us about her friend who was a heavy user of soft drinks.
for years she drank around five to seven a day.
she had been having bone pain and went to the doctor and was told "your bones have the consistency of lace.
The dentist my daughter goes to is a big "NO SODA" freak. He is always lecturing on not drinking the stuff due to the damage done to teeth. When I was preggo with my daughter I had a Dr Pepper every day. Once she was born I hardly touched it. When I had my son the craving came back. We are all weaning ourselves off of it and have it only on "special" occassions.
SK 
my wife is joining.
she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.
i have accepted that.
((((((((CYP)))))))))) back at ya!!
As she becomes even more indoctrinated she will tell you false information as you are a "wordling" and not entitled to be told the truth of what she is up to.(SEE Insight on the Scriptures under lying, and the WT on "Theocratic War Strategy")
Hamsterbait hit the nail on the head. If you're not one of them you aren't worthy. They have no qualms about lying to you, telling you what you want to hear etc. I just pray your wife remembers who she was before the JW's came along and that her children come first.
My idiot doesn't...
SK
my wife is joining.
she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.
i have accepted that.
Thanks CYP
We were never married...engaged yes, married no. (The engagement came before the pregnancy) he was not "practicing" his parents pretty much disowned him, etc. When our son was born is when they really started the pressure with him (I know this now). Before I knew it he was engaged & then married (within 6 months) and never told me. He never had our son at his wedding, nothing. This is when I started my quest to get some information and here I am!! "they" have no respect for anyone not even themselves if you ask me.
He's very passive aggressive and treats me badly but I refuse to do that to him for sake of our son. He has problems going over there, he freaks out every time..and well....like I said we're headed for mediation. Even his lawyer (at our original custody agreement) told the judge he wouldn't listen and had pretty much given up on him. Altho he does try to push the issue, he's been pretty good about following the basic rules, its when he tries to form them to fit him that we have problems.
You're still married, you have a say and you're hands on. I think you stand a better chance at making things good with your kids and your wife. Don't force them to make a choice between the two of you, just make sure they have all the information they need to make their own educational decision when the time comes. Above all else, show them you love them no matter what!
SK
my wife is joining.
she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.
i have accepted that.
Hopefully your wife is nothing like my ex in that department. When it comes to our son, it's his way or the highway. I've asked him to explain to him that we have different beliefs and "this is how mommy does it and this is how daddy does it" and you know what?? He doesn't care! He'll do it the way he wants it done and what I say doesn't matter. I have never downplayed his beliefs to my son other than telling him that daddy has different ones. He's still a bit too young to understand, all he knows is he goes to "keemo hall" and "meeting" and that's about it. I read to him from a kids bible, I take him to my church and until this gets settled legally, he will have access to both.
I hope your wife will see the big picture and put your kids first, but my experience says that will never happen. Especially when she's getting pressure from her "church" to have your children learn the "real" truth.
Good for you to keep at this CYP...don't give up! Kids are pretty smart, they will come to their own conclusions if they have choices, and that is what it's all about...choices!
SK
my wife is joining.
she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.
i have accepted that.
Even against their other parent
CYP....there are alot of parents out there who use the kids...my ex is one of them. His wife is a treat as well, she's a bit younger than me and just had her first child, but is forever talking over her "man" and telling me my business and what she thinks of me whenever I try to talk to him about our son. She does this in front of both my kids (I have a 16 year old as well). Methinks she's in a sad position and its much easier to hate me than deal with the reality. I try not to react to her...it's hard!
AA: You always have good points & lots of info...thank you for that....I write everything down!
SK...
my wife is joining.
she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.
i have accepted that.
Well, unfortunately when it comes to my son being with his father, I don't exist. He takes him regardless of what I say, he does what he wants. He treats me as if I were an interference instead of the boys mother. He still lives at home with his parents, his wife & new son and when our son is with them, he's getting it hand over fist. What am I doing about it? Lots...courts, mediation, it's all in the works now...but in the mean time I tell him that his dad does things different, and when it comes up that his dad doesn't do birthdays, etc. He's 4...there's not much understanding on either side right now for him, but I'm working on it!!
I don't get invited to his meetings, again, I don't exist in his world now, and every step he takes in this direction is going to come back & haunt him shortly. I came to this site to learn about what I'm up against, and boy howdy!
SK
my wife is joining.
she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.
i have accepted that.
sounds like a good plan. I too, have problems with my ex taking our son to meetings, and have resolved myself for the time being to making sure our son has another view on religion, he goes to church with me, and he gets birthdays & Christmas and all the holidays in between.
You have a good strategy. Your kids are lucky...let us know how it goes!
SK
this site has been a place that i have visited many times.. i would like to make some friends and meet local people.. to blondie ... words cannot explain how much i appreciate.
the reviews.
i can see so clearly how the studies keep members.
Wow...so many newbies!! Welcome! STick around!
there has been a few new to board so what's one more?
i've been reading the board for a few weeks and i'm impressed at the amount of research that goes into many of postings.
there are two topics that really get me going, one is "607 bce".
Welcome Welcome!
well - this is my first post.
i want to express my gratitude to all of you in jwd land for the help you provide.
i'd be glad to relate stories, and experiences in the future, but wanted to introduce myself first.
Welcome! Hope you stay awhile!
SK
